Revenge of the Introverts

Hi Friends 🙂

Thanks for all the nice words about me ditching running for a while. I really enjoyed it last spring and for most of the summer, but lately I just haven’t been feeling it. There are so many other activities I enjoy, like workout dvds 🙂 Last night I did this one:

I had to –  it was Monday night, which meant it was Thintervention night. Did you watch it? What did you think?

Last week I asked a lot of questions about whether you are introverted or extroverted, if you like social gatherings, how you talk to someone new, etc. I am definitely introverted and most of the time, down right shy. I always have been. I try to “come alive” when I need to (at work) or if I am meeting someone “important” (job interview, Jason’s family members, etc). But for the most part I tend to want to be by myself doing solitary activities. I was in Barnes and Noble yesterday and this caught my eye:

I had to buy it. The main article was so interesting. It talked about the main difference between someone who is shy (wants to connect with others but finds socializing difficult) and someone who is introverted (someone who prefers time alone). I actually think I am both, not one or the other. I struggle with getting to know new people, making new friends or having a good time at a party (whether I know people there or not!), but I do prefer time alone.

The article also explains that introverts may seem like poor communicators, but in reality they are actively engaged in the conversation…but in their own head. They are taking in information, thinking about it, waiting for a turn to speak, etc. I can’t tell you how many people in my life have said to me “do you just not talk?” – they don’t realize how difficult it is for some people (me) to say what they want to say. I want to make sure I say things right the first time.

My favorite part of the article (besides the pictures, like the one above) was this line: “we hate people telling us how to be extroverted, as if that’s the desired state”. Once again, I wish I could tell you how many times someone has tried to help me be more extroverted. How about everyone becomes more introverted, huh? What about that?

When I was at B&N I also picked up this book, after reading a review of Kelsey’s blog. I’m excited to dig into it:


  1. Are you interested in Psychology? If you consider yourself introverted, do you think you are shy as well? Are you a shy extrovert? I think I already explained that I am a shy introvert 🙂
  2. Do you like to buy books, borrow them from the library or do you have a Nook or Kindle? Or are you not much of a reader? I like to buy book and get stuff from the library, Jason has a nook and he loves it. Sometimes I wish I had a little electronic book thing, it would make reading in bed easier, plus for traveling I wouldn’t have to lug around any big books!
  3. Are you back in school? What class are you most excited to take? Thank God I am done with school! But my favorite class ever was Criminal Law — I loved reading old cases and briefs.

Enjoy your Tuesday!


29 Responses to “Revenge of the Introverts”

  1. Alex @ IEatAsphalt Says:

    YES! FINALLY! Guys I’ve dated have a really hard time understanding that I am just a quiet person sometimes and that I like a little alone time. I’m not dumb or thoughtless, they are just all in my head and I dont feel a need to share everything single thought. I don’t think there is anything wrong with being someone who is quiet, because when I actually do say something it is freaking meaningful. I get so worked up over this topic.

  2. hookedonhealth Says:

    Um Jackie Warner DVD: I do it 3 times a week and it kicks my butt! I love it!!! What did you think of it? I actually haven’t seen Thintervention as I keep missing it, but I really badly want to see it. I love Jackie, she is so real that I find her workouts and meal plans super easy to follow.

    As for Psychology, I LOVE it! I did my undergrad in communications, but tons of my electives were psychology courses and I found them oh so fascinating. I love that mag too, (and Wired magazine, I am a geek like that). I find that it depends on the situation. I used to be an extreme Extrovert, but ever since I started dating my boyfriend and settled down, I’ve turned into an Introvert. I love time at home alone, or quiet nights in with the bf. I do feel the need to go out with my girl friends every so often though. So I am still a little bit of both 🙂

  3. glutenfreemuse Says:

    I am definitely naturally extroverted, but have become more and more introspective the older I get. It is nice to see both sides 🙂 I still get uncomfortable around introverts though, because I feel strange if I don’t know them well. I always want to strike up a conversation! Silence with someone I just met is uncomfortable for me 🙂

    I love buying books, but Hubby is really good about checking out books. I’m trying to get into that more.

    I’m excited for my Historical Video Course for my Master’s Program 🙂 Who doesn’t like watching videos for school??

  4. Myra Says:

    I’m the same way foo. It’s worse when I’m in a group and I know ONE of those people. Then afterwards that one person is like… What’s your problem. You’re so outgoing usually. Also usually when I meet someone new, like when I worked at PB and had to train someone, the ONLY way I could communicate with them was either by being an all-business employee obsessed with my job, or by being super fake and ditzy and dumb. Real conversation… nope. Why are the Lintners like this????????

  5. Kate Says:

    i had my complimentary and alternative approaches to nutrition class last night and loved it. i am planning to post about it this afternoon. i think it should make for an interesting semester.

    i am excited for the farmer’s market this weekend!

  6. Michelle Says:

    I think I am both types of introverted, too. I really like that quote about extroverted being the “desired” state. I am more likely to listen a lot as I get to know someone, and it takes me a while to open up. I once heard introversion described as “being energized by time alone and drained by time socializing” – it’s very true for me!

  7. Lauren @ 40Apples Says:

    I used to be painfully shy, as a kid. Painfully! Somehow, I grew out of that kind of extreme shyness – I actually do like meeting people and engaging with others now – but I still wouldn’t consider myself an extrovert. I also am very “thoughtful” when I’m talking to someone else (many times I’ve been accused of being “slow” to respond; like you, I’m just trying to make sure I communicate exactly what I want to say!) I also really value time to myself. The distinction between shyness and introversion is so interesting… I can definitely see it in myself.

    I usually just borrow books from my mom (a voracious reader) or friends.

  8. Brittany (A Healthy Slice of Life) Says:

    That article sounds so interesting. I am fascinated by psychology. My dad is a psychologist and I minored in psychology, so I love learning about it.

    I’m probably more of an extrovert, but I definitely have introvert tendencies… sometimes I just hide it well. 😉 I don’t think there is an ideal way to be, but owning my own business, it forces me to become more comfortable communicating with others and growing more comfortable in all social interactions.

  9. Shanna, like Banana Says:

    This stuff fascinates me. For work I’ve had to take several personality tests, one of them being the Meyers Briggs for which I am an ENTJ (Extrovert, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging). I always thought I was more of “I” (Introvert) but it turns out that I actually do get my energy by socializing, interacting, and being around people. Who knew?

  10. Laury @thefitnessdish Says:

    Sounds like an interesting article!!! After reading this I think more so than shy, I am probably an introvert. I cherish my alone-time…some people can not accept it, because they love being around people all the time….me, I just need my kitty and a good book!!!

  11. Heather (Heather's Dish) Says:

    i would say that i’m interested in psychology but not to the point that i buy books or read much about it. and i SO wish i was still in school! enjoy it while you’re there!

  12. Maria @ Oh Healthy Day Says:

    Oooh, I love this topic. I’m a Psychology nerd – it was my college major. I’m sort of weird (okay more ways than one!) and am such an extrovert in situations where I feel comfortable (family, friends, coworkers), but put me in a room with all new people and it takes me a while to warm up. I have to get a feel for the room, conversation, etc. So in ways I can be shy. But that being said, I CHERISH my alone time. I crave it even and if I don’t get it, watch out, you will drive me crazy 🙂

    Great topic Holly!

  13. Stephanie@ avocado nation Says:

    Hi sweetie! Great post! I have been a bad blog friend but I promise to be better from now on. 🙂

    It’s weird, because I think I can seem extroverted but I actually believe myself to be introverted. Being around people really wears me out and it’s important for me to be alone to recharge my batteries. It’s a strange dichotomy.

  14. Kylie @ A Hungry Spoon Says:

    I’m a library-girl all the way! We visit Barnes and Noble weekly (I know, very dorky!) to go to the coffee shop and peruse the books that I can check out at the library later 🙂

    PS-Love Jackie Warner’s Power Circuit Training DVD! What a great way to start day~

  15. Averie (LoveVeggiesAndYoga) Says:

    I will take credit for bringing the HSP book into the sphere 🙂 I told Lauren She’s a Runner about it, who blogged about it, then Kelsey saw it and blogged about it, and now you have 🙂 AWESOME! I have been well aware of being an HSP for the past 10 years. I am highly social in some settings, but love alone time, and am also keenly sensitive to everything from loud noises to garlic breath. So being a HSP isn’t just about “taking things personally” or being sensitive on one level, it’s such a broad dynamic. I can’t wait to see what you think of the book! You will know instantly if you are a HSP or not.

    And as a HSP, it’s also interesting raising a child who is a HSP. My mother is not a HSP and her trying to raise me….the proverbial bull in a china shop expression comes to mind.

    My undergrad & my grad work is in psych. So yes, I’m “interested” in it 🙂

    GREAT post hon!


  16. Jess (Bmore Balanced) Says:

    I was Psychology major in college so I love anything that has to do with understanding people and their behaviors. Especially when it comes to food.

    I would have to say that I’m more of an extrovert but I do find myself quietly sitting back and taking in a conversation when I’m in certain situations where I don’t know many people. It gives me time to organize my thoughts and to get to know the people I am with if I just listen.

    I’m currently back in school for Nutrition but right now I’m stuck taking Organic Chemistry as a prerequisite. Not very exciting and super hard! I can’t wait to get into my Food Science and Nutrition classes.

  17. Ellen@FirednFabulous Says:

    I used to be REALLY shy when I was younger, and hated when people called me out for it. It made me even MORE shy, ugh. I will never forget the time in sixth grade when the most popular girl in school said, “What’s wrong, cat got your tongue?” and everyone in class started cracking up. Terrible. I don’t know what happened, but I’ve become more and more outgoing the older I get. I can be at a party and strike up conversations with strangers, no problem.

  18. gingerbreadcake Says:

    I’m very interested in Psychology and have a minor in it. I was going to get a double major and also major in Psychology but then I decided I just wanted to graduate early. 🙂
    I graduated from college years ago, I was 21 when I graduated and I’m 25. But in college I LOVED taking Italian!

  19. eatmovelove Says:

    Wish I were back in school! Congrats on making the decision to do what you want to with running! And, yah, there are definitely areas of psychology I would love to research more…sometimes it can be tooooo much of the analytical crap though 🙂

  20. 1970kikiproject Says:

    i borrow books from the library. i don’t like having a deadline for the return date, but i MORE don’t like paying for a book that i will read one time (i’m thinking fiction, here; resource books that i’ll refer to over and over are different).
    i’m an extrovert! but i wasn’t always this way! i’m married to an introvert, so i can appreciate how you feel in social situations. with hubby and me, i return home from a social engagement FIRED UP and he returns home DRAINED!
    looks like a very interesting article!

  21. Becky Says:

    I am definitely an extrovert. I feel like a thrive in groups and love being with people. Sometimes I have to stop myself from chit-chatting away. I have shy moments, but not very often. While am no introverted, I appreciate that others are. Sometimes I wish I stopped to think and react in a more meaningful way. Psychology is such a complex and interesting field.

  22. Mary @ Bites and Bliss Says:

    I don’t think it’s wrong to be introverted vs. extroverted. I’m an introvert but I’m by no means shy. I can make friends easily and strike up convos anywhere..I just don’t like partying or being out all night. Nothing wrong with that 🙂

  23. Angela (the diet book junkie) Says:

    sounds like an interesting article! i’m definitely interested in the study of human behavior (surprised?) unforunately though, here Psychology Today is something like $17 a copy. (no thanks, i’ll read it online :))

    i generally don’t like to buy books (because our collection is just crazy and i don’t like a mess) but our library isn’t very good so i do hit the bookstore. a Kindle would be nice, like you said, for travelling especially. apparently Amazon sells more kindle books than hardcopies now!

  24. mostlyfitmom Says:

    I am introverted for sure, and sometimes shy. Most people who have met me in the past few years say they wouldn’t guess I’m an introvert, so I guess I’m maybe not as shy as I used to be. Depends on the situation, I guess.

    I like to buy books. There’s just something about a new book that’s all mine that makes me happy.

    Right now, I’m most excited to take endodontics. We learn how to do root canals. But “excited” is probably is stretch. LOL

  25. Kelsey Says:

    oh im SO HAPPY you picked this book up, i know you’ll love it. REVENGE OF THE INTROVERTS for sure haha. its amazing how that book makes it feel easier just to be ourselves and understand how our minds and emotions work. Let us know what u think when ur done. i definitely know it’ll give u a lot of ‘aha’ moments when u read through. XOXO

  26. edenseats Says:

    I’m totally into phych stuff, maybe because Ive been seeing a shrink since i was 13, so sad. I dont know what I am, I’m outgoing but not a “social butterfly”, I’m more of a homebody. I’m not in school anymore, I went to college AND culinary school. I loved sociology in college and I love my baking class in culinary school

  27. Di @ Says:

    Personal Training with Jackie Warner is one of my go to DVD’s. It’s really helped me to build upper body strength and definition in my arms. Plus, I have fun doing it

    As for Thintervention, I enjoyed episode one. Planning to watch the second episode tonight. Ciao

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